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I’ve just gone to Amelia’s blog, and I saw this post regarding the class spirit. Or rather, the lack of one. It’s pretty obvious even to the blind that some people on our class don’t get along well with the others, and they don’t even make an effort to.

Not that I’m blaming them. I think that’s very normal. Some people can get along with almost everyone, but some just simply cannot tolerate some people. Even some of the school teachers aren’t exactly best buddies. You know who they are.

Even cliques are normal. When people like each other, they’ll naturally get along well, and form a small group of close friends. However, if they can’t stand the sight of each other, then of course they can’t form a clique. Each clique has its distinct characteristic, and not all possess this characteristic. You see cliques in society too, and it’s existence is something you cannot deny.

Samuel mentioned about forming a council with representatives from each clique. But would anyone really stand up and declare that they’re from a clique? To form this council, we must first admit to ourselves that we have this special group, and is the line clearly defined. Like, how do you know if you’re in that privileged group or not? Also, some people would deny having a clique, because it would make them seem snobbish or whatever.

Also, I feel that having this council would only divide us even more. To have this council, the barrier between us is crystal clear and rock solid. We know where we stand, we know which side we’re on. We would be packed more tightly into our small little groups, and there would be lesser interaction between us, and if so, wouldn’t we be more separated than before? The agreements between these groups might only be based on the benefits it would bring, instead of real, mutual friendship.

It has only been a year for us, and given our hectic schedules, a year isn’t really enough. You may know a person for a lifetime, but would you really understand him or her? So you can’t really blame anyone on the lack of cooperation.

Some people can never be best buddies because their personalities totally clash. This is not something they have control over, because that’s how they are, who they are. The lack of interaction between us might not necessarily be a bad thing. If two persons cannot stand each other, then wouldn’t it be better if they just avoid and ignore each other completely, rather than to squabble? I’m completely ignoring Melvyn because I can never get along with him, so I would rather not court trouble.

“I love you
You love me
We are one big family”

Barney is gay. But that’s not the point. The point is, Barney the dinosaur is purple and gay and a liar. It’s not possible for everyone to get along well. There’s bound to be tension. You can quarrel with your own family members, and how can you be so sure that you won’t argue with some strangers?

Whether you want to admit it or not, we’re strangers, and will always be. If, like what our darling Barney thinks, that everyone can be friends, then World War 1 and World War 2 wouldn’t have happened, nor the Iraq-Kuwait war, or transnational terrorism. And there wouldn’t be a need for a United Nations either.

I’m just saying that this lack of camaraderie is normal. You just have to accept it as it is. If you had to choose between hanging out with a good friend and having fun doing retarded things or to spend time with a complete stranger and trying to fill up the awkward silences, which would you choose?

We don’t have a choice to meet those people we’ve met, and those who we have not. It just happens.

Some of us in the class have known each other for a few years, while some of us have only known each other for a year. Would you be more bonded to a close friend whom you seem to have known for a lifetime, or a stranger who has only entered your life a year ago?

I must say that I admire those who are trying to make an effort to improve relationships between everyone in the class, but it would be futile if not everyone wants things to change, and are happy with the way things are.

For example, you can organise a class trip, but can you be sure that everyone will want to go? No, in the end, you might only end up with your usual clique, and some others who would be trying so hard to fit in.

I’m sounding so damned pessimistic.

Anyway, we just have differing opinions, that’s why we’re separated. And this is something no one can change. You can’t expect everyone to think the same way, so of course there’ll be disagreements.

When we don’t like someone in our class, we voice out our opinions, whether verbally or in our blogs, or wherever. And is that going to improve our relationships? No, but if you keep it all inside, will it help either?

Nothing can be done. It’s the end of the world. Yeah, right.

Things can be done, I guess, but I’m still very doubtful about it. We don’t have much time left anyway, and after we graduate, it’s not very possible that we’ll meet up with each other again, or rather, it might be possible that we have no wish to see some people ever again.

It’s not very possible that we can become “one big family”, because this mindset of ours is too deeply rooted. We’re so used to being in our own comfort zone that we have no wish to get our asses out of there.

And it’s not just about ourselves either. We might feel that it’s fine of someone joins our little clique, but what about that person himself or herself? Sometimes, it’s not a matter of whether we’re allowed to join or not, but whether we want to or not. And what if we don’t want to?

Oh well, enough about this already! I’m going to shut up for once in my life. Sometimes, I think I’ll be better off if I just keep quiet.